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14 March 2011 @ 01:51 pm
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About 2o mins ago I was listening to my nice crying because she did want to go to her dads house this weekend,and her mom telling her she had to,because she was going out of town for the weekend,it broke my heart because its the same every weekend,I feel so bad for those kids :(

I then said,its ok Aimee,you can stay here,then I got the job of keeping the other sister Alicia aswell,so thats my quiet weekend shot to hell.
Im really begining to not like my sister very much for how shes treating her kids,she tells them that she needs to have a life too but shes never hardly at home with them and I think they are begining to dislike that alot.
Last night she asked me would I babysit and I said no,thinking if I did she would stay home with them,but I later found out she was sending them to her friends house for the night,I was furious at her.

Im begining to feel like they are in my care 24/7 and as much as I love them,its not right.
One of my cousins hates her mom and dad because they used to get drunk every weekend and during the week were barly at home and I can see the same happening to those poor kids,my sister knows this but continues to say......I need a life.

I think shes very selfish,but I guess the only thing I can do is keep them safe when I have to,im keeping them on St Paddys night for her too.
 
 
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buzziecat: Cat's eyebuzziecat on March 13th, 2010 02:14 pm (UTC)
I guess the only thing I can do is keep them safe when I have to
No, it isn't. You don't have to offer as often as you do and then feel angry about it.
I am not criticizing you. I know you feel very bad about your nieces, but you put yourself in the position of their alternate care taker. Have you considered that it may be an 'enabling' thing that you are doing?
Im begining to feel like they are in my care 24/7 and as much as I love them,its not right.
Your sister has learned - from you - that you'll take over for her.
They are will you 24/7 because you suggest taking them.

If your sister is doing such a bad job of parenting and is endangering her children, then the authorities need to be called in. If not, maybe you need to step out for awhile and let her deal with her own life.

I think that you like very much that your nieces love to stay with you and show you affection but you might be surprised that, as much as they love you, they'll still defend their mother over you and anyone else.
Yvonne Reidyvonnereid on March 13th, 2010 05:56 pm (UTC)
Shes not putting them in danger I don't think cos they are always safe,just taken care of by someone else instead of her.

If I don't care of them she would send them some where they don't want to go and thats not right.

Vonnie
buzziecat: Cat's eyebuzziecat on March 13th, 2010 06:11 pm (UTC)
They are young kids, Yvonne and don't always have the best judgment. Going to stay with their father may not be what they want to do but why? He hits them? Doesn't feed them? Drags them to pubs? Sometimes kids don't want to go to a parent who tells them what to do (clean your room, go to sleep) and doesn't give in to everything they want, etc. so they complain about going to that parent. I don't know in this case. I just know that it's possible.

He's not rejecting them, is he? They can go to stay with him, can't they? So, I'm beginning to wonder if you don't get some satisfaction out of being the 'rescuing aunt' and you like that even though you complain about not having your weekends to yourself.
Just wondering.
Yvonne Reidyvonnereid on March 13th, 2010 06:57 pm (UTC)
I don't really know what to say to this,but I'll try....thier dad and his wife doesn't let them walk over them when they are there and they say hes boring.

He takes them to the park and out for food on the weekend when he has them,but they often complain they don't like going there,and I guess I just feel sorry for them.

But the point im trying to make is that thier mom shouldn't be leaving them with others as much as she does,cos thats not right.

I don't think I look at myself as "the rescue aunt" it just works out that way and even if I say no she sends them somewhere else,and I just don't them going anywhere else,and that only leaves me,so there really is no way out of it,and thats why im complaining hon.

Vonnie
xoxoxo
shadownycshadownyc on March 13th, 2010 02:42 pm (UTC)
You're being very generous with your time. I hope you don't lose your own opportunities for fun.
*Hugs*
Yvonne Reidyvonnereid on March 13th, 2010 06:00 pm (UTC)
I don't have fun anymore,im often too busy for that,but I should make more time for fun soon :)
7WildWaysUp7wildwaysup on March 13th, 2010 03:14 pm (UTC)
Well I guess were going to have to send Mel over there and straighten her out...

Because the choice to become a parent, is a choice to always put your children first. Making sure all their needs are met; before you get to go your own Play-Dates...

Maybe she needs to learn to have fun and enjoy her kids again. Help her by suggesting a trip to the; library, museum, zoo, park or just hanging out doing girls things... with out alcohol...

Later Sweetheart ~ Kathleen

Yvonne Reidyvonnereid on March 13th, 2010 06:02 pm (UTC)
Well,her kids are safe here,they are just here far too much instaed of at home with her :)

I just can't think straight about making suggestions to her,and she wouldn't listen anyway.

Vonnie
bkrave: BJ Loving Youbkrave on March 13th, 2010 04:15 pm (UTC)
She needs to be there for her kids. If she wanted to party she should have never had kids they are her life they should come first before anything else it don't take long before the kids resent their parents and start acting out and getting into trouble.

They are lucky they have you for support and stability.
Yvonne Reidyvonnereid on March 13th, 2010 06:04 pm (UTC)
They are already starting to resent her and I agree that everyones kids should come first,no matter what :)
Lynspike7451 on March 13th, 2010 04:49 pm (UTC)
It's wonderful of you to be there for the children but I really think your sister needs to realise that she is their mother and that she has responsibilities. Sorry you didn't get your quiet weeken.
Yvonne Reidyvonnereid on March 13th, 2010 06:05 pm (UTC)
Maybe next weekend :(
Yvonne Reidyvonnereid on March 13th, 2010 05:58 pm (UTC)
Its like I have been saying on here,shes very selfish,I have said it to my folks aswell and they said theres no talking to her,on day I will lose my head altogether!
xoxox

This is a reply to Nicky sunshined whos msg accidently got deleted,sorry about that.
a_life_defianta_life_defiant on March 13th, 2010 10:08 pm (UTC)
This is a rough situation. Seems like your sis just doesn't want to see the light on this issue. And the kids are suffering. *hugs you & kiddies* I hope she comes to her senses for everyone's sake.
Yvonne Reidyvonnereid on March 13th, 2010 10:09 pm (UTC)
We all do,thanks for your kind words hon.
xoxoxox